Pardon Me, I'm in a Surly Mood
Well, the presents are wrapped. I thought we owned a tree skirt. Either we don't or we do; it can't be found. I am not going to buy one now. I still think Pooky got one while he worked at Lowe's after the holidays on clearance. It was a monster tree skirt. How could it be missing?
I resisted the urge to glue Mr. Doo to the couch with my glue gun, which I brought out to make bows using ribbon I got at discount. He kept annoying the heck out of me.
Not a good day for me. I tripped and fell while getting up out of my chair.
I may sound a bit ungrateful by saying this, but I need to get it off my chest. I sent out my box of gifts to my brother and his family. (I totally forget to get a picture of the finished Wool of the Andes sweater. It was all wrapped up in the box when I realized I had forgotten to photograph it!) I bought a few things for his kids, and then I got him a $30 gift card to Home Depot. I figure I spent about $100.
I get a box today from Amazon.com and he has sent me two DVDs, the Harry Potter movies we don't have. I think our collection is completed. I am making a BIG assumption, I realize in thinking this, but I fear this is all he is going to send us. I feel extremely shafted by this, because I spent a lot of time making my SIL's sweater, finding gifts for his kids, and then getting his gift card, wrapping it up nicely, and so on. It wasn't cheap to mail the box by Priority Mail, either.
For some kooky reason I'm obsessed with the value difference between what I have sent him and what he has given us. My brother co-owns a corporation and by no means is financially struggling. Thus, I find it very insulting and inequitable in the manifestation of his gift giving. I think that he should be more generous. I am totally projecting my beliefs and practices onto him: that what I do, he should do. It's a variation of the Golden Rule. I have treated him how I would like to be treated. Because this hasn't come back to me, I'm pissed off.
I have the perfect idea what to do next holiday season: I will make a donation to a very liberal organization in his name. (He's a bona fide conservative.) Does anyone have any suggestions which liberal charity/organization I should donate to?
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Lori, deep breaths. You are putting too much into what you gave/received. Some people just areen't into the whole "gift giving" thing and comparable value. My mother is and it drives me batty cause I feel I have to spend exactly what she does.
Relax, it's Christmas, you're not feeling well. Chill!
Greenpeace, maybe?
Sending you a hug (only touching places which don't hurt)!
Maybe One.org or Moveon.org? :D
I love you, Lori. I understand your frustration. I think in this case it's not so much the fact of the money difference that is really upsetting you, but perhaps that you put so much time and energy into their gifts, and thought, and he pointed, clicked, and shipped.
I have learned that there are very few people that I will put the time and energy into making crocheted gifts for (not speaking of charity here but people I know and love) they just don't understand and appreciate the work that goes into it. Now I do it only for people I am certain will appreciate how much of myself I put into it.
I think this isn't really about the money invested, but about thought and consideration. Just my 2 cents.
I know we didn't have nearly the amount of money this year to do christmas for my friends the way I wanted to. But I tried to put thought into what I did send...and I hope that's enough, you know?
I love you, Lori. Get some rest please? I worry about you, you know...
Hope typekey lets me post this, sometimes it works, others...not so much.
This is a test.
Conservatives love to hate the ACLU or anything pro-choice related.